16 days ago I became a dad and as you can imagine, my life changed forever. Not that I wasn’t ready for it, but what these few days have already taught me goes beyond fatherhood, and it has deeply impacted my vision for what’s really needed in this world and what WGW will point towards.
This piece is a flow of consciousness in the chaotic first days of keeping alive a little baby who is pushing the boundaries of what it means polyphasic sleep. As well as showing the deeper meaning of new souls arriving on this planet for the future of the human species in the era of artificial superintelligence.
Let me start with the core problem I now see so clearly, I can cut through like a slice of cake:
disbalanced masculine and feminine energies (clearly a direct outcome of patriarchy), and how we designed the wrong system for the wrong people. And how we are at risk of changing it for the worse.
Male-dominated societies seem like a thing it always existed, but it’s not. And we often see it as inevitable, and believe current advanced societies are finally working to fix it. Instead, I now see how we are addressing it all wrong. From an energetic lens, we already discussed that dividing masculine and feminine based on gender is complete bullshit. Both biological males and females contain both masculine and feminine energies and the key to developing highly developed individuals is not a matter of gender, but of inner balance. A truly developed human is the one who masters the perfect equilibrium of energies in the right circumstances of life.
Masculine energies can be shortly described as directional, forward-looking and decisive; the Sun is the perfect representation of it. It doesn’t shy away from its job; it shines unconditionally towards anyone around it, but too much sunlight and no shade leads to burning, the extreme “negative” of its polarity. Feminine energies, on the contrary, are reflective, inward-looking, and masters of emotional decoding. In ancient philosophies, the Moon is the perfect representation. It reflects the light, it creates shades and through its cycles, it allows deep inner awareness and emotional processing. However, when too much feminine energy is present, never-ending loops of rumination appear, “over-emotional” patterns erupts and no direction for action can be taken.
Here a simple illustration going further into these energies.
Following this brief clarification of what I mean by masculine and feminine energies, we can now see that fixing society and its patriarchal domination is NOT a matter of wokism claims. We don’t need more women in leadership positions, nor more women in STEM, nor guaranteeing them an expedited professional career after birth… at least not for the goal we are claiming of guaranteeing “equal opportunities”. Because this misses the real root cause of the problem: how can we build a society that embraces reflective, calmer, and nurturing energies so that people can feel safe to investigate and resolve their emotional challenges, instead of burying them, thinking they never existed.
The same goes for masculine energies, let’s be clear. As of today, very few males are allowing themselves to explore and develop their feminine emotional side and speak about it in public. While at the same time, in all industrialized societies, we have now completely lost the “rite of passage” that for millennia allowed young men to become adults and fully embrace their power. So we keep seeing the same archetype over and over: the broken child who didn’t receive unconditional love when young, was never taught how to balance its inner energies, and now drives cluelessly towards someone else's goal, thinking that questioning its direction is for “pussies”. And hence the hustle culture keeps feeding a bunch of low-stamina aggressive males overcompensating for their lack of inner center.
What we really need to see in society is not an overly-masculine female as CEO, nor keep praising a trauma-led male for its 80-hour work-week and multi-million dollar revenue business that doesn’t address the emotional realities of its stakeholders.
What we need is to remember what it means to be human, how the very unique characteristic of humans IS being emotional, and how emotions (as some spiritual gurus now define as “e-motions” = energies in motion inside our body) work inside of us.
Our ultimate goal in this physical life (and all spiritual traditions align on this) is learning key lessons through the very same emotional journey we go through. So skipping this fundamental work is literally like finishing elementary school without having learned how to write or do basic arithmetic… what’s the point then?!
Now we get into the most important aspect I realized I was missing from WGW work.
I kept refining a tagline (and focus) that sounded nice but felt empty. “Where ancient wisdom and science converge for true success”: this is what I kept preaching. As for the first part, ancient wisdom and science, this is truly my unique view on life and my very own methodology—nothing to change here. But when it comes to success, what does that really mean?!
Well this picture showed me the way 👇
This is the logo of Yasan Bumi Sehat Foundation, the gentle birth clinic in Bali, Indonesia, where my son was born.
When you enter this gentle birth clinic in Ubud, Bali, you see this giant statue/sculpture right in front of you. What’s written below represents Bumi’s mission for the world; it’s so simple, yet profound:
“Gentle birth heals mother Earth”.
I have to be honest, though, when we first checked out the clinic to decide whether it was the right one for our birth, I didn’t fully realize the meaning of this sentence. It took some months of pre-birth classes and the actual labor to fully understand it. But to be able to transfer even a portion of its meaning, you must know the following simple facts:
In conventional hospitals today, all umbilical cords are cut within a few minutes of birth. That’s normal right? Well, turns out it’s not, and this practice was introduced in the 60s (by a male doctor) to “improve hospital efficiency and speed”. But that’s not the worst problem; the problem is thinking that separating the baby from its placenta, with whom they grew together for 9 months, is meaningless. Especially when it turns out the placenta contains 33% of the baby’s blood and most of its stem cells at the moment they exit the vaginal canal. The baby goes through a tremendous shock during labor, and we are ripping off 1/3 of its blood and stem cells from its body! Do you realize the level of trauma we go through and will carry along our lives if not correctly healed when we grow up??
Right after cutting the umbilical cord, as it wasn’t enough trauma, babies in hospitals are separated from their mothers for weighing, measuring, and washing. Exactly as we would measure the specs of a product that just came out of our manufacturing line. Babies don’t have any ability to regulate their heartbeat (and electromagnetic frequency of any organ overall) until month 4. Nature solved this limitation with the so-called "skin-to-skin” bonding, so that babies can immediately pick up moms’ (or any loving caregiver's) rhythm and balance. This prevents nervous system’s breakdown and automatically regulates and heals babies from the stress of labor. Once again, can you see the pattern of our trauma building up right after a few minutes into the “real world”?
I can go on and on with stats and shameful data we call science, but I want to close with the last one: breastfeeding. Today’s stress levels in women, nutrient-depleted diets (yes I’m especially referring to vegans here!) and, especially, lack of right family support are pushing mothers to give up breastfeeding almost immediately. This is a huge problem. Not just because we are buying into the formula industry, but because we are depriving babies of their natural “tranquilizer”. Remember skin-to-skin time? If that was the only issue… Here one of the latest summaries of breastfeeding benefits for young children. I don’t have time to explain further here.
Ok but where am I going with this?
One simple realization: we changed the natural way of nurturing and growing up human beings.
And this is at the root cause of us “adults” not remembering anymore what it means to be humans. This is not only a problem for our health, yes we are more stressed, less happy and more sick than ever.
This is an existential problem of humanity in the coming era of artificial superintelligence.
Because if we don’t remember WHO WE ARE, how can we discern what is good or bad for us? How can we distinguish between a machine VS human?
For those who love data and will immediately try to deny the above hard claim. I’ve been there too… but if you actually look at data the right way, you understand that besides decreasing child mortality, all the other numbers didn’t really get so much better in the last so-called “scientific revolution”. See below 👇
I’ve been a pro-tech person since I can remember. I built my first tech company before I could even finish Bachelor, and I always knew deep inside me that technology was going to save us. Well, yes it still can, but most people are using it wrong, and it’s no longer a simple issue of whether we are fostering hate on social media, getting manipulated by marketing algorithms into buying more stuff, or lowering our attention spans.
The issue here is existential, and it’s believing that solving human problems is a matter of transcending the very essence of being human. Substituting our soft, wet, and highly emotional (and unpredictable) intelligence with pure rational, hard computation.
I won’t go so much into details on this today, I’ll surely do deeper dives later. What I want to leave you with right now is my realized definition of “true success”, the one I will solely focus on from now on, and the same goal Wholegrain Wisdom will push towards till the day my mission in this physical life will terminate.
If the scope of human incarnation in physical reality is to go through highly emotional challenges and use free-will to choose the most aligned and loving way to resolve them. And if the way we resolve these challenges is through processing, releasing, and transmuting traumatic energies stored in our subconscious bodies and minds.
Then the very ultimate goal of a life well spent, and the definition of success, is “healing”.
Going through the cycle, the ups and downs of life, and learning how to process the emotions stored in both our individual and collective consciousness, so that individually and as a species, we can all heal and reach lasting happiness. And to do that, we need to rebuild a society that allows this work!
Therefore, leveraging “science and ancient wisdom for true healing” is my life mission. This is what Wholegrain Wisdom is all about. This is what standing in front of my wife, giving birth to my child, taught me. This is what humanity most needs.
Remembering how to be human through individual and collective healing.